Love & Life After Divorce
I'm so excited to introduce you to Tiphany Kane, host of the Love & Life After Divorce podcast. Tiphany's on a mission to support women who are in a difficult marriage, going through a separation or divorce, or who are divorced and are having a difficult time.
Tiphany shares her story of leaving behind the religion she was born into and moving cross-country at twenty to pursue a fresh start. After relocating, Tiphany fell in love and married. She describes the moment she realized her now ex-husband was not her person. "There's a lot of growth that needed to happen. But darn, letting go and letting myself fall off that cliff and getting on my own path was the absolute best decision I ever made—Hardest, painful, but best."
Tiphany also depicts what it was like to escape her abusive marriage and realign with her authentic self, knowing that meant starting over again. Tiphany bravely re-entered the dating scene and opens up about her insecurities around trusting herself and her judgment. "I'm not sure I will ever be totally able to get over those fears. I'm not sure I'll ever be totally, totally ever able to 100% trust myself. We've talked before about how self-love and self-worthiness is truly a daily practice. And it's really easy to fall back. I have my rough days when I definitely fall into my pit of despair. Then, laying on the bed with the covers over my head is my favorite place to be, but there's a combination of really, truly having to work consciously on opening myself up to this love because I will put my prickly armor on, and I will push him away." Her story comes full circle as Tiphany claims love and life after divorce.
Tune in to the full episode.
Takeaways from this episode to stash in your tackle box:
If you don’t feel aligned with the religion you were brought up in, especially its influence on relationships, find the courage to leave, there’s support on the other side.
If you feel like you’re hanging on for dear life in your relationship, from a cliff with bloody fingernails as Tiphany describes, let-go, surrender, you will be better off for it.
When there’s any form of abuse occurring in a relationship the only objective is to get yourself and children, if you have children to safety, periodt.
After divorce, work with a relationship coach, or seek professional help to overcome patterns and behaviors ensuring you’re emotionally and mentally ready to date again.
Make self-love and self-worth a daily practice. It’s easy to fall back into our old ways especially after enduring trauma or being in an abusive relationship. Keep nurturing your relationship with yourself, it’s the most important relationship you have.
Be selective with when and how you introduce a new partner to your children, using a technique like Tiphany did with a safe word is an effective and easy way to get your child’s initial reaction to ensure they feel comfortable with all that’s going on.
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YSC Unfiltered
Tiphany and I spill the tea on the feelings that surfaced after chatting about our divorces over on YSC Unfiltered.
