Awaken The Divine Feminine Within You

Today we're chatting about divine feminine energy, what it is, how we connect with it, and the benefits of embracing it. The definition of feminine energy in my mind was vastly different than its actual meaning. 

Feminine energy embodies the nurturer, the healer, the compassionate peacemaker whereas masculine energy is focused on doing and achieving. They're meant to complement and support each other: they're like yin and yang.

I believed that feminine energy was based on gender, which is not the case. It's not even close. Divine feminine and divine masculine energy cannot exist without the other. Despite our cultural associations of masculine and feminine with men and women, we all have both energies within us. They might not be evenly balanced. If we possess too much masculine, we get aggression and domination. If we express too much feminine, we get disempowerment and stagnation.  

Some qualities of being in your feminine are kind, gentle, reflective, heart-centered, compassionate, accepting, forgiving, intuitive, collaborative, and creative. Contrary to how I viewed this in my head. For some reason, I equated embracing my feminine as leveling up in the kitchen, assuming a traditional gender role as a female, performing tasks that the woman has historically fulfilled. Please tell me I'm not alone here. The feminist in me was rebelling. Here I thought I needed to throw on an apron and step it up in the kitchen, ensuring my make-up and hair were on point. I envisioned perfectly lined red lips and dumbing down my knowledge of sports or business. No, Erin. That's not it! I can connect the dots on why I'd have that notion. We live in an action-oriented society, which tends to lend itself to divine masculine territory—connecting to the divine feminine within us all about slowing down and being rather than doing. It's also about embodying those qualities, like compassion and intuition. When you've been single for a long time like I was, six years (cough, cough, but who's counting), chances are, your masculine energy may be dominant because you've been so reliant on yourself. You're accustomed to that independence.

What are some ways to reclaim your divine feminine energy that don't involve being barefoot and pregnant? Of course, that's a joke based on my ignorant understanding. And for men, how can you comfortably add some feminine energy into your life to achieve balance? The first is my mom's favorite thing to do, rest. Little did I know when she rests, she's making space for that divine feminine energy. We typically have a task-based mindset, constantly trying to achieve and get more done. To resist this temptation, we need to try to allow ourselves to be and do virtually nothing. Yes, nothing! When we take a moment to pause, we tap into the grace of the feminine. Challenge yourself to sit in silence for a few minutes. No music or distractions, just allowing yourself a moment's rest. Ahhh, namaste. 

Stepping into your feminine energy embraces your sensuality. Don't confuse sensuality with sexuality. I'm exposing all stereotypes and cliches. Sensuality and sexuality are different. Sensuality is tactile, physical pleasure, getting in touch with the feeling of things through your various senses like taste and smell. To ignite your sensuality, light a candle or spritz a favorite perfume. 

A large part of embracing your feminine energy is looking inward and reflecting. This is an area of focus for me every day. I've been putting it into practice since I had the realization that everything starts with me, my thoughts, beliefs, patterns, the stories I tell myself. One way to put this into practice is to journal. Pick a time, morning or night and sit down, and put your thoughts onto paper. Traditional journaling, pencil to paper, is probably best, allowing creativity to flow and avoiding distractions from technology. Every day I write down at least five things I'm grateful for. Then, if I'm feeling any negative emotions, stress, anxiety, angst, I will write a few paragraphs about how I'm feeling to rid my mind of those thoughts. The process is therapeutic.

Affirmations are another way to embrace the feminine. Self-love, accepting yourself for who you are, unique, special, one of a kind. Compassion is the love language of the sacred feminine. To exercise self-compassion, jot down a few affirmations, "I Am" statements, and practice saying them to yourself. I want to hit it home, look into the mirror, and say them aloud. You cannot love another until you love yourself. 

Recollecting your dreams is another means to get in touch with your divine feminine. It allows you to acknowledge your inner world. Your dreams carry a lot of symbolism as well as synchronicities that surface in real life. Therefore, paying attention to your dreams and connecting the dots between dreams and reality are all benefits of being in your feminine. We're all familiar with the concept of a mother's intuition. Tapping into this intuition is a great way to connect to your own feminine energy by going within, tuning in, and seeing where you're at. It's about getting quiet with yourself and not going outward for information but instead receiving it from within. Trust your gut.  

While we're on the subject of mothers, let's also talk about mother nature or Mother Earth. Being one with nature is one of the simplest rituals for connecting with the divine feminine. We can connect with the sacred feminine energy by spending time with Mother Earth. In nature, the feminine creative energy runs wild—we can visibly take in her beauty.

Feeling one with the earth, walking barefoot on the beach, or breathing fresh air will not only awaken your soul but leave you feeling connected to the earth and your divine feminine.  

There are so many benefits of finding a balance and embracing your feminine energy. Men, if you're not sold, embracing your feminine can make you a better leader, one who understands the three c's, the value of community, collaboration, and compromise. All solid traits for the workplace and home, making you more attractive to a potential partner.

Ladies, you're not doing yourself a disservice or going back in time if you embrace your feminine energy. Feminine energy is beautiful. Women who are in their Feminine are powerful. The source of power is not outward, which is masculine but inward. The more you pay attention to your feelings, thoughts, and needs, the more attractive you become. It's that simple.  

To summarize, society teaches us to do-have-be, which is a masculine approach, take the bull by the horns, hustle, achieve, push boundaries. In dating and relationships, this can be translated to serial dating, approaching relationships with aggressive timelines, and not taking time to reflect on where you are, where you want to be, and how you intend on getting there. The powerful paradigm shift of embracing your feminine allows you to follow the be-do-have model. This lends to stepping into your own power and embodying what you wish to attract. This pairs nicely with the Law of Attraction. Apply this to dating and relationships, and you'll notice your more playful, loving, trusting side emerge. 

What are you going to do today, this week, moving forward to embrace and accept your feminine and allow it to awaken from within? Whether you're male or female, I challenge you to look inward and step into the power of your divine feminine energy.  

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