Before you kill your dating game by overthinking, tune into S1: EP28 Stop Overthinking It! You'll learn a couple of methods that will help you from going down a rabbit hole. Give yourself, your (prospective) partner, and your relationship the fighting chance it deserves. Learn to live in the moment while not rehashing the past or worrying about the future.

This class also focuses on the critical differences between a thinker and a dreamer. I am a dreamer. I find it easy to daydream, to imagine myself working my dream job, living in my dream house, and being married to my dream husband. My brain doesn't work like that of a thinker. Thinkers are realists. They are more logical, and it's harder for them to picture their dream life.

We walked into the private room where chairs and couches alike formed a circle. Inside the circle, there were a couple of small tables with empty drinks and candles glowing. In the corner was the bar. The room had a faint smell of incense. I wasn't sure if we were going to hear dating tips from the master herself, witness a seance, or engage in a group therapy.

He then asked me on an overnight date, well, a weekend getaway. I agreed. We were drunk at dinner one night, and he asked me if I would wedgie him. What? Was he joking? He had to be joking. He then repeated himself, admitting he had a fetish for being wedgied by women. I sidestepped the issue and chalked it up to us, being extremely intoxicated.

We walked to Shellback Tavern, my favorite dive bar, not too far down the street. We each took a seat at the bar, and he ordered a round of vodka soda waters. I take mine with a lime and cherry to make it a little more exciting. He proposed a toast to a fun night, we clanked plastic cups, and each took a sip. He asked me if I was up for playing a game. “Sure, why not?” I said.

I was honest with him. I explained what I want. As you get older, you learn to be more vocal when you’re dating. Your time becomes more precious, and you learn sugar coating things doesn’t help. He understood. He said he might consider having another child if he met the right girl. Might. I heard his initial, unfiltered stance in general conversation.

“People want to know about other people’s dating experiences because everyone’s just trying to figure it out.”

Truer words have never been spoken. Case in point, every time I get together with my single girlfriends, the main topic of conversation is dating. I love sharing a good story, especially a dating story. I’ll touch on the highs and add humor to the lows.

If you’re like me, you started your journey to find love with a lengthy list of what you envision your perfect man to be.  And if you believe in The Secret, like I do, this list is everything.  It’s your wish list to the universe.  You draft it, then write it down in your favorite journal.  Then you wait patiently for the universe to deliver based on the Law Of Attraction.

Divorce is strange.  You go from sleeping next to someone you love and trust to not speaking to them at all.  You transition from putting someone else’s needs above your own to realizing that you should have been making your own happiness a priority the whole time.  You have to find your identity as an individual again.